Difficulties in Discerning
It’s been a long time since I last wrote an entry into this blog, for multiple reasons. For one I’ve been quite busy with school and work. Another is that I haven’t been sure what to write about. Mostly it’s because I’ve been having difficulty in my discernment.
I’m in my fourth year of post-secondary education. I could be graduating this year. Instead after this one I have two more. I’ve taken time off to work and jumped around a bit in my studies. I definitely wouldn’t change it to finish school early as I’ve gained fantastic experience as a result but it’s hard to think that after having committed seriously to discernment for over a year that I still have almost three more until I can enter the seminary. At times it feels like it’s really far away and I’m stuck and not really going anywhere. Technically I’m working towards the seminary but it doesn’t feel like it because it’s years away. Instead of finding something to work for or taking it in strides like “well I’ll really solidify a prayer routine and then find some consistent spiritual reading time and start hanging out with the younger priests more often” I’ve just been sitting and waiting. Turns out that drives me bonkers. I can wait for something as long as I can find something else to work for in my waiting. I’ve still been loving life and having a blast with my friends and enjoying work and everything; I’ve just felt a little empty because I let my prayer life hang up to dry instead of focusing on it more.
So in saying my discernment has been difficult I don’t mean I’ve been suddenly thinking that I desperately need to find a wife and have kids because I could never be a priest. It’s just that I haven’t really been actively discerning for a while and just waiting to go to seminary. Although, admittedly I have thought a lot more about married life simply because this year I’ve finally started realising what I’d be giving up. I thought of it before as just a job. Being a priest is by far the most appealing career for me, but it’s not just a career. And while I know that, I didn’t really get it. Giving up a family isn’t easy at all. I haven’t made any sort of formal commitment yet but I already feel pain at the thought of not having a wife and kids. I have a lot of friends that live in town with their family here at school and got to visit my family for the long weekend and have been reminded how awesome families are. However I’ve also made an effort (after meeting with my spiritual director for a good little kick in the shins) to get my prayer life back in order and have felt more moments of peace at the thought of the priesthood as well.
It’s still a ways away, and while it’s not really that far it feels really far. Coming to more and more of an understanding about what I’m potentially giving up helps me realise what I’m taking up and what I need to do to try and be ready for it. If nothing else my discernment is having a huge effect in shaping me. As much as I’d love to talk about how awesome a person I’m becoming I should probably save that for another post. Plus then people wouldn’t know I’m so humble. I will say though that getting closer and closer to my friends and the families around me is one of the biggest things I am thankful for. I remember before thinking “I don’t know if I can ever see a parish as my family if I were a priest, like a bunch of other families and old people and other people not my age…” I love being surrounded by people my age at school but I’m also learning to love having just about anyone around. I love having friends to run into and families to visit. I unexpectedly met a friend I hadn’t seen in weeks to give them something and we ended up hanging out for a few hours and it was awesome. I feel so much closer to them than I had realised beforehand. I find myself experiencing so much more joy and love. My friends are my family. And pretty much everyone is my friend. I’m used to calling people my brothers and sisters in Christ but now I really feel like they’re all actually my brothers and sisters. And so with that, my brothers and sisters, I ask that you pray for me; that I may keep my head on straight and my prayer life in check. That I may keep working towards my vocation no matter what it is to be rather than sitting and waiting. Pray that I may have patience and fortitude. I’m asking for a lot but I could always use more prayers. I love you all and I appreciate it immensely. (That may come as a shock to the random first time reader -woah! This guy said he loves me, what the hell’s wrong with him – but oh well.
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